The form has been signed, the comments written now we just have to sit and wait until May when we find out the names of the pre-school nurseries that A and E will attend next year.
And so it was that I confidently went down to the municipality to register A and E for next year in the school system. I was going to do it online. I even opened the system and went through most of the registration process but there was just one doubt in my mind and something inside me made me want to fill in the forms with an official person for support. So I went to the municipality, took a ticket, waited patiently for my turn, which fortunately was only about 15 minutes, and approached the clerk set with the unenviable task of registering hundreds of children for kindergarten and school. I quickly explained my dilemma of registering identical twins for pre-school and she asked me the question I knew was coming - "So do you want them to be separated or remain together?". Of course I want them to remain together, they have done everything together, they have the same friends, they love each other, they are best friends and are so happy together - was what I was thinking. So I calmly answered her "I need to separate them".
The forms were both filled in and printed. Then they were stapled together and on the top of each form in red pen was written - "to separate".
I know we have made the right decision. Fortunately the three pre-school nurseries linked to the primary school that they will attend the following year are right next to each other. Chances are their friends that they are with now will be divided between the three nurseries. All my friends think it's great as they have a pretty good chance of their child being in nursery with a Yantin next year - and they don't mind which one they get - why would they - most people don't know who is who anyway. Which is why we have decided that the time has come for them to start being individuals.
I can't imagine what it must be like to get to nursery in the morning and the first thing the teacher says is "Who are you?" "Are you A or E". Next year A will go to nursery and be known as A and E will be known as E.
I am sure it will take a lot of getting used to. I am sure the first few mornings won't be so easy but it has to be done. So now we wait to check which nursery they are placed in with the hope that each of them will be at least with a couple of friends they know.
Yesterday A and E were photographed by a lady doing a photo project on identical twins. As I look at the images (below) of the two almost identical faces and the gorgeous smiles, I know that there will be plenty of together time after nursery and I know the twin bond runs so deep, separating them for nursery won't really separate their love and devotion to each other.